What Time is the Right Time for Love?


Growing up as a young man/woman you have a very high-tech love desire. I call it fairy tell love desire because it does not exist. You heard it over the radio, you saw it on the TV, you watched it on the Youtube videos; you heard some stories about love affairs, you see them holding hands and sometimes see them kiss. You might have erroneously watched the 'porn-hub" and your heart is stirred up and something inside of you crave for and desire to fulfill the feeling or quench it as it crops up in your mind very often. If you are from a well disciplined family you would have heard such advices and warnings against falling in love. Yes, but the desire lingers because you are human and you are created to explore and to belong. How do you deal with it? You have watched and seen how those who display love dress, approach and act and you copy those dressings and moves in your closet hoping to get a compromise.  
One day you step out of your lone planning cell with the surety to get some likes. By this time you have built yourself to be liked and approved by the object of your desire. it is the time to release the whirlwind desire in you, then you hit the 1st rejection. How will you feel, like the earth beneath you should open up and swallow you up? "Oh no!" Your two palms on your face became large enough to cover up the shame? Not at all, it is shameful, unthinkable that someone should say no to you, you wondered "Why!" Yes, that is the first step to take. Why did he/she reject my advance? I will try to give you the reasons and what you should have done before the advance and you can go back and practice it.

 Why you may get a no from someone you really like:

  1. Premature approach
  2. Over preparation
  3. Inexperience
  4. External influences
  5. Cultural/societal expectations
  6. Personality and values
  7. Economic statuesque
  8. Age/Health
  9. Religion/political biases
  10. Occupation/Career choice
  11. Your social media involvement
  12. Your future plans
  13. Your sexual orintation
  14. You entire personality
How to avoid and coupe with rejection
  1. Prepare your self well before you approach
  2. Answer some questions why you really want that person

  • Are you ready to take responsibility?
  • Are you ready to be a mother/father
  • What will you gain or lose in such relationship
  • What are the consequences of what you are about to embark on?
  • Is this the right time?
  • What are the opportunities at your display?

We will talk and expand on the bullet points above but now, do not worry, she/he is not the right one but if she/he is the one, wait, you will have the chance to ask her/him again. But do not let the thought of anyone consume your entire life. Deal with yourself first, acquire more knowledge, wisdom and discretion; these will make you the desire of every girl/boy. Try building yourself than adjusting your physical appearance. Work hard and pursue a career instead of pursuing her and everything will be yours. I read this from Proverbs 2:1-22. God will bless and prosper you, just seek Him now that you have the chance and he will prosper your heart desires.

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