“DAMN IT JOE, YOU THREW A BOMB ON ME!”


Dinah has just dropped her husband, Joe, at work and was heading home. Regrettably, there was trouble in her head as she drove. Her handsome, caring and loving husband has just dropped a biological weapon on her before he kissed her bye and entered his office.  Although the point of entry of the damaging material was her ear, she was not able to say something in response before she started experiencing something strange in her entire system. Her heart was hit so hard, that she felt that she was having a heart attack. She was a strong woman so she tried to forget what had happened and continue to drive on. However, her head was not agreeing with her resolve. She continued to drive, 'home is better' she encouraged herself. No, no! she started seeing double as she was about to make an entrance into the freeway. She thought she saw the green light but it was the red light. Yes; right then an impatient young driver who had the right of way hit her car. She lost consciousness. Thank God that she survived to tell her story one month later.


The question is how do you treat or rather how to you talk to your spouse, your partner, your children, boss, clients, customer, employee or co-worker? Remember that one word used wrongly whether at the right time or situation will go a long way to destroy something, somewhere, some day. Reacting to this Jesus said,  
“But I say to you that everyone who is angry with his brother shall be guilty before the court; and whoever shall say to his brother ‘raca,’ shall be guilty before the Supreme Court; and whoever shall say, ‘You fool,’ shall be guilty enough to go into the fiery hell.” Matt5:22 (NAS)
(‘Raca’ means worthless one, empty headed) Jesus judged these words said in anger to anyone as equal to murder. Such a person therefore who ever says it should suffer the same punishment as a murderer. This is true because some spoken words are deadlier than death itself.
What am I driving at, Although we have the freedom of speech to air our views, we must be cautious, choose our words right and do not intend to hurt anyone in any way. We must contain our anger so that it would not become wrath. 
You may wonder what I suggest you should do when someone says or hurts you like Joe hurt Dinah that faithful day. I do not have much to say, yet
  • Your life is important to you, protect it. Do not allow someone’s utterance to hurt you so bad as to push you to either kill yourself or someone else.
  •  Learn to take a deep breath when some one says wrong thing to you and do well to tell the person that what was said is not for your consumption and mean it by not reacting to it.
  • Say sorry immediately you noticed that you have hurt someone.
  • Start a positive journal where you would write positive things about you instead of driving in confusion. After writing your head would be clear enough to drive
  • Pray, sing, dance and you will feel better.
  • Do not brood over any negativity because it will demean you.

I do these always and it works.
Finally, you must understand that there is no relationship in this world that has no problems or complications. As you sweeten you coffee, so you will drink it and as you make your bed, so you would lay on it. Hence it is important that you work through every relationship with the hope of making peace. Find the best time and situation and atmosphere where you could lovely and honestly talk with your love one.
TO GOD BE THE GLORY FOR THE GREAT THINGS HE HAS DONE. WE ARE STILL HERE IS HIS GRACE.


Bible citation Matthew 5:22 (NAS), you will get the full meaning by reading the entire chapter)

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